if you believe that to be so there’s several decisions to be had about this matter which are all, evidently, up to you
but i wish you luck with all of them all the same
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I have a feeling that some people there only hang out there because they also don’t have nowhere to go and doesn’t quite specifically disconsider you or anything.
But maybe you need better friends, you can do it!!!
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yeah no my decision is decided but it takes a while to actually take effect and i don’t have anywhere else to go in the mean time
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then it’ll be so!
People avoiding conflict and refusing to stand up for themselves and coming into relationships with an expectation that the other person is going to hurt them so often causes more people to be hurt than the alternatives
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how many M&M colors are in your pack bro this BUS 4029 course is kickin my ass
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My classmates a bigger part of them are okay. Though they have this perception among each other born from uncertinity that’s basically sums it up as in-group or out-group bias, judging people based on the groups they are part from instead of judging them as individuals.
“Did you see that they were hanging out with this person we don’t like”
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So many people harbor secret resentment and do nothing about it and then act like it’s the other person’s fault for offending them once. You have to say things
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(i am graduating in like <1 month and i have like 6 school days left with them so)
but even then i’m still left with. no one. nowhere i can go to stop sitting on my computer all day and being in the same household as my parents all day and everything that comes with that
and it’s kind of terrifying and im only barely trying to keep the relationships here together but it still hurts when i learn about these things especially given the sheer amount of effort ive put in
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yea
my congratulations
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I always thought the sort of people to just be petty at you and not making it exactly people are a red flag to me.
On the topic of conflict-avoidance, it can be tough to just say something that isn’t exactly peaceful, but if it bothers you and you want to keep it cordial you can’t just keep quiet, voice if something bothers you even if they are bothered back. Being fake doesn’t help anyone.
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I told my friend this and they broke up with their boyfriend the next day
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i totes know the feeling… I lost contact with my entire high school friend group minus a couple people in the last few weeks before graduation, primarily because I found out one guy particularly hated me and basically worked to turn everyone else against me.
i definitely kinda struggle with that sometimes
not as hard as i’ve seen other people do but like
i have constant anxiety about being abandonded that is generally kept in check but still present
and sometimes it gets worse so i try to aleviate that by telling them im scared about that kind of thing!
but then it happens again because this is an ever-present issue and so i try to continue doing that and communicating about it only to be met with “Why are you still anxious about this” after like two times (or it otherwise blowing up in my face) which, predictably, makes it worse elsewhere
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Yeah
People keep harboring to resentment as some anchor to protect their ego, to not be percieved as being stepped over and aren’t willing to consider that sometimes people do mistakes not out of malice and it just makes everything complicated
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yeah.
people oft underestimate how much power they have over others
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IMO it’s less bad in college (though I don’t have the same problems with living w/ my parents), though it depends on your personality
I find being alone while there is the social expectation to be with people embarrassing, but don’t mind being being alone in itself very much
And in college the chance you know people in any given class is lower (especially for gen-ed classes) so there’s less expectation of that
it does still hurt to lose contact with people I’ve known but since it’s not something I’m confronted with frequently it’s not too bad unless [I’m specifically thinking about it / something is reminding me of it]
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