Cookie Thread Act 3: The Cookie Strikes Back

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#25644

“My main issue is why would I chose to be a better person when people are still going to be terrible people to me”

Read this. Then tell me do you think this is a rationale thought?

You previously said that OTHERS are the reason, you aren’t a better person. So you are the one who claims that you’d be a better person if OTHERS were better to you. This means you accept that someone’s lack of kindness can spread to others. Then after you acknowledge this fact, you choose to lack that kindness and compassion YOURSELF. This means you accept that you’ve become the exact person who made you feel these bad emotions.

How could you ever blame those people, when all you’ve done is become them and help them continue to spread even more of this despicable nonsense. By your words, I can tell that you’d prefer a world with more kindness and compassion, or your previous experiences wouldn’t have left a big impact on you. If deep down YOU desire for a more kind world, how could you choose to spread more of this despair?

It sounds so dumb, but it’s true that things start with YOU. Same shit with me, and if we both desire to experience more compassion in our world, we can’t allow ourselves to be like this.

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#25645

I can be nice to people and be “kind” but all of the emotions are superficial. I mostly find fun in making jokes that people laugh at, because I find humor to be my favorite emotion.

#25646

This is entirely from your lack of accepting the past.

Trust me, as someone who is holding onto countless past experiences, you aren’t happy/accepting and this makes you want to not partake in “real kindness” or compassion for others.

I’m talking from a lot of personal experience, and that’s why I recommended that you focus on seeking help. Even if it’s not in a professional sense, you could find a lot more in life if you didn’t feel the way you currently did.

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#25647

Thank you.

#25648

Well, this is depressing.
Break the tension!
Go, go, cat picture!

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#25649

This post feels like it was written by Michael from The Office

#25650

GO GO BENCH EXTENDER

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#25651

i mean go go gadget fuck

#25652

Did you really

#25653

Bench extender would be a nice hero for homeless people

#25654

Thanks for the fun couple weeks. Y’all were enjoyable chatters, and hope everyone is happy in the future.

cya

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#25655

See you

#25656

Skimming over this conversation, my main comment is that resentment is overrated. I didn’t talk to my sister or my dad for over three years and I used my rationale of indirectly blaming them for my back pain and claiming the moral high ground over them as a mechanism to help me endure life.

The only reason I forgave them and everyone else was that I eventually became a bit crazy and started to view all hardship, mental and physical, no matter how brutal, as a blessing instead.

Unsure who you resent or why, but my two cents are that people rarely mean to hurt you willfully even if it may seem that way at first glance.

Mental health wise it has really helped me to forgive and start talking with everyone I had once ghosted, including users on this site, and it means the world to me now to have a great relationship with my dad and have him be proud of my progress in life.

Sometimes I need to be intense with my workers at my job and yell and be demanding with them when we are drowning in orders, but this is really just a surface level interaction.

I give compassion to everyone else now whenever possible. The pain and anxiety is mine and you can’t have it.

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#25657

Except a child drowning in a pond if you’re gonna be late for work

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#25658

Well yeah i don’t consider that as “possible” as my life is centered around my job and depression would kill me without it so i’m not going to put it at risk for a drowning stranger even a child. However in this situation i would call my boss and predict she would permit it without penalty. She’s not unreasonable

#25659

That said i probably should just save the kid. I’ve been late before for other much more trivial reasons such as being delayed at the red cross or my uber being rerouted without penalty given how much I’m valued there. I have a high level of confidence that there would be no penalty for an incident of this magnitude.

#25660

i think theres a healthy amount of resentment to hold. there are sometimes people you cant forgive and maybe its reasonable and maybe it’s not but as long as you like, accept that and move forward theres progress
i think its important to express the middle ground for stuff like this. putting the bar that high can lead to more problems.

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#25661

Understandable. I’m a person of extremes so I don’t really vibe with the middle ground but I know most do

#25662

oh also sometimes you cant accept things but acknowledging that is still a path forward. There is always a path forward

#25663

fair enough

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