And I think looking at sexualities as separate defined inherent physical Things and not primarily a label for how one interacts with the world is a big part of what fuels… like… a lot of the distress people feel about not being able to figure themselves out?
I know I had that whole “am I gay or am I bi” endless thought panic for a while, because I thought, like… I had some hidden True Sexuality which needed to be uncovered, and that if I only gathered enough evidence I would know what I Really Was. But that’s not how it works even a little bit. A sexuality is just, like, a description of how you interact with and navigate the world.
Who cares about my True Mind’s reaction to whether I am Attracted To Men or not; what matters is, like, would I date a man? How do I interact with men in practice, is it as potential romantic partners or not? That’s what matters.
Your sexuality can change over time or in different contexts, and it can even change without change in any of your underlying attractions if you just… decide you want to interact with the world a different way. That’s literally fine. I dunno